Revising 'The List'
Updated: Oct 8, 2021
Like a lot of other women my age, I'm still trying to navigate my way through this stage called, Midlife. There's a popular notion that all women have what's called 'The List' of things we are looking for in a man. Those things can be a combination of physical, financial, spiritual, or intellectual standards that we, or perhaps with the influence of someone else have deemed as important in our pursuit. Logically thinking, that list would look like a mixture of those things. But, might only focus on the superficial aspects, depending on the character of the woman who wrote it.
I don't think that I ever consciously wrote my List (maybe I should have). I do have friends that have been holding on to theirs for dear life. Strict ones...that they wrote 20 or 30 years ago, and should've had an expiration date. Are you being a bit delusional at 45 in thinking that you're gonna meet the guy with six-pack abs, six-figure salary, triple-A credit, never been married, with no kids, and no baggage? At what point or how many years pass before you realize The List needs a serious revision, or maybe even to be thrown out? Last part too drastic? Tweaking, based on reality is good.